Why Being With a Babe Magnet Isn't All It's Cracked Up To Be!
Posted: Friday, August 07, 2009
by LeahG Artist
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On the surface of it, he had nothing to offer to women in terms of these superficial things that other men might consider women find important when looking for a mate.
1 year later we were married.
What did this man do to persuade me he was worth my time, my attention and my love?
He had a great smile. This was his one endearing physical feature and he smiled a lot.
He was a great listener and he was interested in knowing everything about me but wasn't so inquisitive that he didn't share anything about himself. He shared a great deal of intimate information.
He also played to my nurturing side by appearing 'vulnerable'. This I suppose created an atmosphere of trust and as a result a friendship was forged.
He was like this with all the women he encountered without exception. He was instantly 'open' and 'sharing'. He had life experience and was able to relate to people's problems and help them overcome them. He thus played the healer and the needy card well.
I very quickly noticed how 'attractive' he seemed to be to other women. This of course (in competitive terms) made his attractive rating fly up. If other women rate him highly then he must be worth having.
This is how men's attractive ratings work.
It's not about them standing alone as an individual it's about others perceive them.
This summarizes this man's appeal.
So what was the downside of being with this man that every woman wanted.
Day and night women would call the house. Not just his female friends, but the girlfriends of his male friends and the mothers of his male friends. They'd call him up to discuss their problems.
When we were out strange women would come up and sit on his knee with me sat right beside him.
I also had to endure women telling him they loved him, throw their arms around him and kiss him right under my nose.
It was quite insane and in all seriousness this is exactly how it was.
He couldn't buy an icecream from a female icecream seller without her relating her personal troubles and him taking her number!
I am not exaggerating in the least.
Meanwhile, this guy was far from perfect behind the scenes and one year after marrying him I divorced him and went back to finding him repulsive.
There are thus two messages here:
Guys
If it's in your nature to be a friend, to listen to women's problems and to be attentive you'll do very well with women indeed.
Women
If you've got yourself a babe magnet, be warned, it might not be that much fun! You must not be the least bit jealous as chances are your babe magnet will continue to attract babes long after you two got together.
Good luck!
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LeahG Artist and Designer
Leah left the retail and health management world a few years ago to become a freelance writer and artist. She now enjoys creating funky vibrant cartoons and illsutrations for websites, promotional materials and as gifts. Leah would love to illustrate her own children's books in the future. Presently she is creating cartoon and cartoon mascots for business clients.
Visit LeahG's Cartoon and Illustration Services website here for updates and latest art work.
Leah left the retail and health management world a few years ago to become a freelance writer and artist. She now enjoys creating funky vibrant cartoons and illsutrations for websites, promotional materials and as gifts. Leah would love to illustrate her own children's books in the future. Presently she is creating cartoon and cartoon mascots for business clients.
Visit LeahG's Cartoon and Illustration Services website here for updates and latest art work.
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Top-level comments on this article: (5 total)Leah, "to listen to women's problems and to be attentive." you are so correct. Maybe you would like this that I dedicated to the ladies in my life, my Mother, my Daughter, and My Wife. I hope you like this?A Lady’s Worth:The worth of a moral lady is advanced of the worth of the opulence of the globe, but the lady and the value of her as a righteous woman has been attenuated by the structured system of human organization of this earth. To attenuate the lady of any nation weakens that nation of its virtue. When the woman of a world standard diminishes “Woe is me,” for the Flower of Ecstasy and Bliss has been scorned on an unclothed humanity (Laconic, Dr. Clarence Rucker, PhD FC CCJP ICCS.)This is why every woman and the general public must reconsider how we gaze upon the females in our humanity. Just to think of the beauty of this being is more than a pleasure but is an installment in the bosom of our hearts. Men present her as being endowed or exceptional, she will be an identical you in the improvement of this humanity, realm or nation, do not devalue her. Adore her landscape of sexual symbolness that God gave her without devaluing her. She is virtuous. Let God continue to grace her in this humanity. Surely God will only present her as a daughter of decency. Rubies and gold cannot compare to her. The value of her can flood the earth with beauty. The dust mind of man cannot begin to give the woman her price.Paradise as Heaven does lie at the top of the Protector’s mind. That is God Himself. This means that you and I should be obliged to lend a hand in the construction of a virtuous life. As humanity, we should recognize that our children who come into this humanity come in as pure. We must consign ourselves to guard the wholesomeness of our children that we have and give birth to. One thing we do know, it is usually the family members who destroys the family. It is destroyed from within.Paradise and Heaven does lie at the top of the Protector’s mind. That is God Himself. We will in no way have a blissful life until we have Godly characters in our hearts. If we allow God to elevate our consciousness, and fill it with His knowledge, Heaven is our destination. Mold the children and teach our children right, there will be God power in all. And one thing for sure, “Paradise and Heaven begins in the womb of Woman.”Excellent ! You should publish this as a stand alone article here, it's great.
Thanks for passing by
Leah :)
Haha - Hi Leah - This was a very good article, I orginaly came to your site to research my young daughters shingles.I think for a long time I was an unwitting "Babe Magnet". I do have a knack for listening and have always had a way with women. The one thing I have done that was different to your ex is that I realised what was happening and put a stop to it before it effected my marriage.My wife called it my "Damsel in Distress" syndrome.After i realised I was doing this i was able to be more clear with women what the boundries are and whilst I can still be a good friend with a women I no longer have them turning up naked at my front door (Real Story)Thanks for your article it gave my wife and I a chuckle.WBWow that is a funny story!! Naked eh! good that you saw the error of your ways ;) I hope your daughter gets over her shingles.Leah
I learned a lot from this article. But I have a question: Is there a middle ground where you can be a semi-babe magnet and therefore keep a relationship but still have woman find you irresistible?
My hat is off to you, Leah. There is no way I could have withstood any of the aforementioned. Thanks for sharing another side of the story; to the story (smile).Thanks :)
Good stuff! Your article is well written.
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