How To Tell if Your Man is Cheating on You!
Posted: Monday, October 01, 2007
by LeahG Artist
Cartoon & Illustration Services
Your female intuition is telling you that your man might be cheating on you, here are some tips to help you find out if he really is!
First how to tell if he's lying:
Ask him a direct yes/no question.
If he says 'NO' and there is a slight nod of the head (rather than a shake from L to R) he's most likely lying. Similarly if he says 'YES' and shakes his head from side to side rather than nodding again lying. These head gestures are more indicative of the truth than the actual words. So look for a nod or a shake rather than a Yes or a No!
What happens when you accuse him of cheating?
Quite often when a man is a cheat and you confront him, his reaction will be completely over the top. He may accuse you or being completely insane and having a dirty mind. The reasonning behind this is to make YOU feel guilty for raising this issue and fearful of doing so again, and of course to make you doubt yourself.
Evidence of cheating
Have you checked his/your joint phone records- are there are long,recurrent calls?
First how to tell if he's lying:
Ask him a direct yes/no question.
If he says 'NO' and there is a slight nod of the head (rather than a shake from L to R) he's most likely lying. Similarly if he says 'YES' and shakes his head from side to side rather than nodding again lying. These head gestures are more indicative of the truth than the actual words. So look for a nod or a shake rather than a Yes or a No!
Quite often when a man is a cheat and you confront him, his reaction will be completely over the top. He may accuse you or being completely insane and having a dirty mind. The reasonning behind this is to make YOU feel guilty for raising this issue and fearful of doing so again, and of course to make you doubt yourself.
Evidence of cheating
Have you checked his/your joint phone records- are there are long,recurrent calls?
Look at receipts, are there any unusual lunches/dinners he never mentioned to you? Or worse jewellery gift receipts and it's not your birthday for another 6 months!
When the phone rings, does he take it into the other room, even when there is no noise disturbance where you are?
Is he taking more interest in changing his underwear? Perhaps changing before he goes out and altering his habits regarding his appearance and hygeine. Is he coming home later than usual, does he smell of women's perfume?
Is the other woman someone you know?
Is your best friend round a lot more lately when he's home and less when he's not?
When the phone rings, does he take it into the other room, even when there is no noise disturbance where you are?
Is he taking more interest in changing his underwear? Perhaps changing before he goes out and altering his habits regarding his appearance and hygeine. Is he coming home later than usual, does he smell of women's perfume?
Is the other woman someone you know?
Is your best friend round a lot more lately when he's home and less when he's not?
Does your husband insist on giving her a lift home, and the journey takes longer than it should?
What is their body language like when they are together, fleeing glances,slight touches.
How does your friend react when you openly display affection to your husband? Does she look aggravated, does she make an excuse to get you to stop?
What is their body language like when they are together, fleeing glances,slight touches.
How does your friend react when you openly display affection to your husband? Does she look aggravated, does she make an excuse to get you to stop?
Does she seem annoyed with your husband?
These are just a few of the possible ways to tell if your man is cheating but the list goes on and on. Of course him following this pattern is no guarantee he is cheating either.
These are just a few of the possible ways to tell if your man is cheating but the list goes on and on. Of course him following this pattern is no guarantee he is cheating either.
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LeahG Artist and Designer
Leah left the retail and health management world a few years ago to become a freelance writer and artist. She now enjoys creating funky vibrant cartoons and illsutrations for websites, promotional materials and as gifts. Leah would love to illustrate her own children's books in the future. Presently she is creating cartoon and cartoon mascots for business clients.
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Leah left the retail and health management world a few years ago to become a freelance writer and artist. She now enjoys creating funky vibrant cartoons and illsutrations for websites, promotional materials and as gifts. Leah would love to illustrate her own children's books in the future. Presently she is creating cartoon and cartoon mascots for business clients.
Visit LeahG's Cartoon and Illustration Services website here for updates and latest art work.
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Top-level comments on this article: (6 total)clever, to the point and not without homour or truth. what I want to know if how did she get all our secrets?:) Jerry Springer lol The lie detection stuff came via studying 'how to tell if someone is lying'..a must read!
shinu from bangalore:struggle is the problem,pain is the situation,and the success is the comfort victory of life.so always be success all the best
can someone help me out we go to vegas every year but 1 year i didnt go and this girl we both now went and he hung out with her for the week they were in vegas there is a bit of a age diff but age dont matter no more so i was on the bus this year and every time i looked over at her she was looking at my hubby and i noteced he was always looking at her if i was around they wouldnt talk but when i was gone they did talk not sure if anything went on that year i didnt go but it sure seems like it i have asked him but he says no i was talking to him a few times and his eyes were looking at her not me well talking to him what do you think didt somthing happen or not do i go to her and ask?????/Confront him once more tell him you are not stupid and tell him you noticed the glances and stares if he still denies it tell him you will ask her her and see his reaction, then confront her and don't be nice Usually our gutt feelings and intuitions are always right no matter how much we choose to question or ignore them good luckI can't tell you yes or no but I know from my own experience that some questions are best left unasked if you are not prepared for the answer or the consequences of knowing something unpleasant. If you feel very uneasy and want to know either way you could ask the 'girl' why she keeps talking to your hub and looking over at him but never when you're around. That is better than accusing her outright and resulting in an embarrassing moment. It is possible nothing happened, but that they are close after being away for a week together. These things can bind people in friendship terms. It doesn't have to have been sexual.
I thought this article was very informative and anyone who has been there does not forget the tactics used by a cheater. I get so sick when I think of the many times i chose not to admit i was living with a cheater and yet the time came when I set him free to roam at will and he has been miserable ever since and I found the love of my life and am very happy. I think you can never let the worst of life beat you down and you have to learn to trust when everything in you tells you to resist lest you suffer more heart. I found the article to be very frank and I enjoyed it.Hi Nancy, I'm glad you enjoyed the article, onwards and upwards! I've been cheated on too and the important thing is to try not to let it make you too cynical. Easier said than done I know. ;)
He did you a favour though ay, sometimes life is like that.
well what i dont know is am i the one who is insecure or the truth is just screaming in my face. I am dating a divorcee who has three daughters with two different women the problem with me is that i always wonder why his past two marriages did not work out.Knowing women the way we get so committed and give our all when it comes to relationships. Does it then mean that he made the wrong choice twice or he is just the wrong choice that two women found.As for cheaters i have had my own fair share of them , two of my friends went out with two of my boyfriends so now i find it hard even to introduce any of my friends to my boyfriend as i always think that they will be dating behind my back. Now back to the guy i was talking about he spends alot of time with his daughters-so he says. he is always taking them for dinner and he has never taken me out. when he travels out of the country and he returns he tells me that he has a present for me which he never gives me -so who does he give the present to? I dont ask him coz i feel that he might think i am a golddigger and that our relationship is only based on financial gain. So is this man really with his daughters or with another lady? Has he taken advantage that i am not the demanding one in the relationship. i feel so shortchanged. what do i do?A good way to find to find out why a previous marriage didn't work is to ask the man what his ex wife complained about with regards to him (or you could ask him outright).
My experience is that when a man complains about his 'nagging ex' he'll say what she moaned about and within time I find myself thinking 'ah, so this was what she was moaning about, I sympathise!'
I have, as such, learned to listen carefully to what the man declares as unreasonable nagging from his ex as often I have found that there is good reason for her nagging and it's helpful to have the heads up as to a man's bad habits (and vice versa) early into a relationship.
This of course applies to men and women.
As to whether your man is cheating no one can know.
Meanwhile it's not unreasonable for you to refer to the gift he said he had for you.
Neither is it unreasonable to expect a night out once in a while. It's healthy for a relationship to have quality time.
Good luck!
tim about to turn 13 on august 18th and im dating this guy klayton it will be 6 months on 5/14 and hes always around my friend amber and i tlked to him about it saying how when he tlks to her i dont feel like im pretty enough or good enough 4 him have any comments or idea`s besides me being too young to be dating?You ARE good enough for him because he's with you and has been with you for 6 months. Re your friend, I can remember being your age. I hated my friends being around guys I liked. I still do too ;) It's a grey area. I can't say friends don't do the dirty, because sadly sometimes they do. Either way, this is a situation that will arise at any age, so the best way to deal with it is to be more confident about yourself and if he does stray then it's his loss because you are fabulous! Confidence is also a very attractive quality whereas neediness and insecurity is not, so whatever you feel, love yourself and be good to yourself.Good luck Nichole.ps. please take things slow and don't be tempted to do anything you're not ready for to 'keep' your boyfriend. That never works. x
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